Showing posts with label spirituality. Show all posts
Showing posts with label spirituality. Show all posts

Friday, 4 March 2011

Book Review: Living as a River

*For full disclosure I’ll mention that Bodhipaksa was my first meditation teacher, “way back in the day,” as they say (in the fall of 2000 in Missoula, MT). However, since he got his business degree and his website became wildly successful, he’s managed to avoid me well for quite some time and even waited for me to be safely in India before returning to Missoula on his recent book tour.

That said, his recent book, “Living As a River: Finding Fearlessness in the Face of Change,” is a marvelous piece of work. It is, in essence, a call to reflection for each of us, to reflect on our lives and our potential, and to reflect on the fact that we too often (nearly always) squander that potential by seeking happiness in all the wrong places.

The book unfolds as an offering (dāna). What is offered is an alternative to our unhappiness, our mere fleeting happiness, and our chasing of ever more happiness. The alternative is framed around the Buddhist Six Element Practice. But as Bodhipaksa says, this is not “a ‘Buddhist book.’” While the traditional Buddhist Six Element Practice forms the spine of the book, the heart is as fresh and modern as the many psychology experiments and quantum physics theories you will read about in its pages. It consists of fifteen chapters, plus an introduction, filled with philosophy, mythology, science, poetry, and the author’s own experiences, all winding a common path toward the destruction of our habitual, and false, idea that we have an unchanging self.

In fact “Living Like a River” begins with a psychology experiement in which a professor asked subjects to imagine the death of their partner. The result? The subjects, “reported feeling more positive about their relationships and less troubled by their significant others’ annoying quirks.” This makes the point that, more often than not, the things that we think will make us happy, do not – and the things that we think might make us unhappy – or be simply morbid, like imagining death – can actually improve our lives.

For the Buddhist, this can be an obvious fact. Most philosophers as well, East and West, have noted that human suffering is rooted in our incorrect understanding of ourselves and the world. But these days, neither Buddhist teachings nor philosophy have managed to penetrate deeply into the Western psyche. That is why Bodhipaksa’s use of psychology and other sciences so important. Science, especially the natural sciences such as physics, chemistry, and biology (all discussed in the book), has a special place in the minds of educated Westeners as the major, if not final, arbiter of truth. So if science can “catch up,” so to speak, with these important truths of the Buddha and certain other philosophers, there’s a chance that the rest of us also might get it.

And so the book marches forth, beginning at times with a bit of poetry, a story from Bodhipaksa’s life, or an interesting fact from recent scientific research, all woven together around the key insights first elucidated by the Buddha, Siddhartha Gautama, some 2500 years ago. The purpose of the book isn’t to be “about Buddhism” as the quote mentioned above makes clear. It is about a way of thinking, a way of seeing clearly (or cultivating “insight” as the Buddhist meditation vipassanā is commonly translated) ourselves and the world. For all readers, it should be a joyful jorney through a hand-picked series of scientific articles and discoveries, poetry, and anecdotes. It is lucidly written, and even consistently funny (a nice change of pace for some of us!).

As I re-skim it now to write this, I find quote after quote and story after story that I’d love to recount for their simple and direct teaching power. But alas, I’ll spare you all of that and just suggest you get the book yourself. You’ll be glad you did. (available at Soundstrue or Amazon)

Cross-posted at American Buddhist Perspective.

Thursday, 17 June 2010

Replacing Vacation

When you take a trip, what are you leaving behind? Vacationers spend thousands of dollars a year to visit the world’s most beautiful places, justifying their travels by the need for a well-deserved break from the daily nine-to-five and the monotony of suburbia. But why is it enough to have only two weeks of worry-free relaxation a year? Why do we accept an unsatisfying job or a home with little beauty?

Other than social pressures to succeed and the obvious need to pay for food and shelter, I see no other answer to these questions than the fact that jobs provide income, income provides possessions, and possessions promise happiness. Unfortunately, to the dismay of many Westerners, the possessions are lying. As I am sure you can attest, the thrill and satisfaction of a purchase hardly ever lasts; instead, it is quickly replaced by the desire for another possession, the next new thing. And we won’t be happy until we have it.

The myth that possessions will make us happy propels us to be unrelenting consumers. What’s so unfortunate is that this myth not only misleads us on our pursuit of happiness, but it destroys what can truly bring us joy.The beauty of nature is desecrated by the freeways we take to our city job, the billboards advertising our products, and the parking lots of our favorite malls. Back home, family conversation is replaced by television. Our addiction to consumption fuels resource wars, deforestation, and pollution on a massive scale, in turn poisoning life and warming the globe. These consequences, and the many others not listed, are justified as externalities of capitalism and “progress”.

If we broke our habit of consumption, buying only what we needed, we would need less income each year and so we could begin to take the steps that many Cultural Creatives are taking in America and across the world. Radical ideas such as a husband and wife each working only part time so that they could spend more time with each other and their kids, or accepting a lower paycheck for a new job you are happy to wake up to every morning. That kind of life needs no break.

It is time for us to replace vacation with a home, lifestyle, and community that we will never want to leave. Instead of eating out (which accounts for nearly half of the pitiful 12% of income Americans spend on food), invite your friends to cook and dine in your home. Resurrect the family dinner table and share your stories of the day. Purchase local food from the farmer’s market and savor every bite. By doing so, you are supporting your community’s farmers rather than multinational corporations who are quickly forcing the great majority of American farmers into financial ruin. Buying local fresh food is one key component of being an inhabitant, instead of just a resident, of your hometown. As David Orr writes in his book Ecological Literacy, “A resident is a temporary occupant, putting down few roots and investing little, knowing little and perhaps caring little for the immediate locale beyond its ability to gratify.” Inhabitants however, exhibit “an intimate, organic, and mutually nurturing relationship with a place. Good inhabitance is an art requiring detailed knowledge of a place, the capacity for observation, and a sense of care and rootedness.” To be an inhabitant is to know your neighbors and wish them happiness. It is ensuring the safety of its members in the face of crisis. It is to know the land well enough to teach about it, and it is the yearning that the natural beauty of your hometown will not only survive, but flourish, for your children. That is the heart of sustainability. When we act with these hopes in mind, the apparent sacrifices of sustainability will be realized as exchanges for the pieces of a better life.

[Please take some time to read and realize the Syracuse Cultural Workers’ tips to build community.]

How to Build Community

Turn off your TV – Leave your house
Know your neighbors
Look up when you are walking
Greet people – Sit on your stoop
Plant flowers
Use your library – Play together
Buy from local merchants
Share what you have
Help a lost dog
Take children to the park
Garden together
Support neighborhood schools
Fix it even if you didn’t break it
Have pot lucks – Honor elders
Pick up litter – Read stories aloud
Dance in the street
Talk to the mail carrier
Listen to the birds – Put up a swing
Help carry something heavy
Barter for your goods
Start a tradition – Ask a question
Hire young people for odd jobs
Organize a block party
Bake extra and share
Ask for help when you need it
Open your shades – Sing together
Share your skills
Take back the night
Turn up the music
Turn down the music
Listen before you react to anger
Mediate a conflict
Seek to understand
Learn from new and uncomfortable angles
Know that no one is silent though many are not heard
Work to change this